A confession Room

 



I always admired a concept of confession room!

In the human history, we will possibly not find any other better way to deal with guilt, anger, envy, jealousy & inferiority complexes.

A confession room or confession box is a very strong tool for any individual to take off the emotional burdens from his/her shoulders and start a whole new chapter in the life!

It is a great relief when you get to know that someone is ‘listening’ you- without giving any suggestion, someone who would not take ‘advantage’ of your situation or even will not create opinion about you. 'Listening' is an emotional hunger of human beings.

This is one of the best practices for psychologically deprived people who are carrying some kind of guilt!

How about bringing this confession room in our offices?

Every day, every minute, a manager keeps on going through a series of emotional swings. It is a possibility that s/he may keep on accumulating different emotions in his/her mind. Over a time period, it becomes difficult for a manager to carry this emotional burden. S/he starts dragging himself/herself with this negative baggage. Since, lot of negative emotions are accumulated in the mind of a manager, it not only impacts his/her day to day performance but it even starts impacting his/her work-life balance.

Many managers who are clueless about what to do with this baggage, rather who are not aware that they are carrying such baggage, become victims of poor health, addiction to alcohol or smoking, stressed relationships and weak performance at work place.

The biggest gap in dealing with such emotionally exhausted managers is there is no effective tool available. The frequent tools used by organization are counseling or coaching which are more of instructive in nature (expert may debate over this statement!). A manager who is sailing through emotional tantrum is generally not in a mood to take directions or instructions.

Just think about it,If every organization, every office would have a confession room. I bet that it will not only help to improve emotional balance of an employee but also would result into better productivity!

A confession room shall be placed in a relatively isolated place and shall be managed by someone who posses strong qualities of dealing with the emotional swings.

Whenever any manager approaches confession room, his/her identity shall not be disclosed even to a person who is listening to him/her. A person who is on the other side of the desk shall not give his/her opinions, inputs or judgments. His/her roll would be to just listen and let go! There is no need to immediately rush to develop action plan and try to fix the issues. Just let it go! Let a person who is confessing,  experience freedom of sharing his/her emotional bursts.

Once the hot air is blown out, S/he would cool down! That is the way it works. Many a times, a person who is going through emotional stress doesn’t need a quick solution. S/he just needs someone who can listen to him/her patiently, without creating any bias. We as a society seldom do this job well.

If every organization creates such confession room in it's premises then organizations need not run behind ‘pseudo’ employee satisfaction scores and employee engagement indexes.

One day or the other, every organization needs to understand than productivity is not just a output of skill set imbibed into a manager but productivity has lot to do with emotional well being of a manager!

By,

Pushkar Korhalkar

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